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This was a guest post I wrote for the spanking goods producer SPORKwoods to post on their blog, and I thought I'd share it with you too! It's for those who have considered it or are shy to admit they want to try it -- it's my candid experiences with spanking with my hubby!
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When my husband and I were dating, I had never been spanked
by anyone before – not as a punishment or even as a playful smack. He
introduced me to it one day out of the blue as a teasing gesture, and at first
I admit I was reluctant – I wasn’t sure what to make of it, really. As we got to
know each other more and more though, his affectionate and teasing spankings
were beginning to make me a little horny, a feeling of naughtiness bringing out
more passion for him. Soon, it became a regular part of foreplay, and I began
to actually enjoy getting spanked beyond just the tease, to the point where I
would ask my husband to spank me more (with a naughty horny voice of course) –
I loved getting my butt glowing red with his palm prints and he spanked me all
the while fondling my breasts or rubbing my clitoris. And he came to know
exactly how I liked it – with a firm hand smacking down on the softest part of
my butt, giving me a little sting but not too much. During lovemaking, when my
husband took me from behind, he would spank me again and again; I loved every
bit of his affectionate spanking. I felt myself getting tighter and wetter
around his manhood with each stinging smack, and the effect was even more
pronounced when we enjoyed anal sex. Yet it wasn’t really clear why it was so
enjoyable. Perhaps it was just that naughty feeling, or maybe it was the
endorphins released by the slight stings. However, I later found out as my
husband and I grew closer through marriage that the reasons revealed to have
much deeper roots.
Spanking
for me undoubtedly feels good because I feel a bit sluttier for my husband, and
bit like a naughty girl who’s been up to no good and is being set straight. But
there’s a reason that it feels so good and turns me on. At the core of it is
the belief that my husband isn’t really going to hurt me, and that it’s an affectionate
act on his part to know what makes me hot for him. I trust him to know my
limits and to push them right to take me to new heights. I trust him to know
where to smack and when. I trust him to only make me his naughty girl and give
nobody else that privilege. That’s a special feeling. It takes all the
components that make us work as a couple and heightens them when he spanks me.
Not consciously, mind you, I’m too busy being pleasured then – it’s
subconscious knowledge that comes to light upon reflection. And I know that he
feels special because I let him make me naughty. He knows I love it because
it’s him that’s spanking my round behind. It takes our trust and makes it
stronger for the both of us; it’s enjoyable! Marriage is so often construed as
just commitment, but it has so many components that are overlooked. It’s filled
with joys, frustrations, and everything in between – and it’s the trust in our
lovers to love us no matter what that makes that commitment possible. The
spanking itself passes with each session of our play, but the fact that we are
so close remains – and that’s what lays the foundation for making spanking so
enjoyable for us.
As for the
tools of the trade, they can certainly add to your spanking experience. My
husband started spanking me with a paddle and belt only fairly recently in our
time together, after we had long established that I enjoy playing the naughty
girl. We found that the heightened (or stingier, should I say?) play allows us
to fantasize even more together. For example, just the other day, I gave him a
particularly pleasurable blowjob, and he slowly pulled out a belt and informed
me that I’ve been naughty and need to be punished. It was a pleasantly
unexpected surprise, and I happily played along, agreeing with him and asking
him for a spanking to set me straight. I assumed the position and kneeled with
my butt in the air, and my husband went to town giving me one smack after
another on my bare bottom, evenly belting each butt cheek with lots of sting;
he made me say that I’ve been naughty and deserve to be spanked hard, and I
said it over and over again while I felt the belt leaving my butt all red with
stripes. Naturally, it hurt more than his hand, but I was all the more horny
afterwards, really immersed in my role as a naughty girl; my husband then went
to town on my dripping love hole with his lovely manhood. The situational play
that we enjoyed shows how spanking can increase intimacy. There are many days
when we will indulge in gentle lovemaking cradling each other, and nurturing
our affection. But some days we both want something a bit rougher, something
passion-fueled instead of affection-fueled. And spanking is one of the ways we
heighten our passion – it’s edgier and sluttier and different while maintaining
all of the subtle foundations that make us work as a loving couple. And when we
play our respective roles that allow such passion, we get closer together as an
end result.
The nuances
of spanking become clearer after you’ve enjoyed it for a while. I still love my
husband’s hand the most, but his belt and our new paddle from SPORKwood are the
toys that take us above our usual limits when we want it. The belt stings more
than his hand, and the paddle is big enough to spank both of my butt cheeks at
once, giving me no break between smacks. What’s more, the paddle allows me to
be spanked while butt plugged (and it pushes it in more – lots of moaning fun!),
making the experience even more pleasurable. We use whatever tool suits our
mood, but constantly searching for new methods and different strokes (no pun
intended) help us extend and deepen our intimacy. It’s important to keep
communication up – what feels good, what doesn’t, and what you want to try.
We have chosen to the spend the
rest of our lives together, and we plan to make it as fun and close as we can –
Spanking’s definitely one of the things that help us keep it lively in the
bedroom (Ladies, I guarantee if you stick up your butt in the air and tell your
husband you’ve been a naughty girl, he will be all over you in a heartbeat).
Does this mean everyone should like spanking? Not necessarily. We’ve found it
to be rewarding and hope that others enjoy it too, but we would like to stress
that whatever it is in your love life that makes you trust your partner more,
that makes you closer to them – go for it and don’t hesittate! Play out some of
your fantasies or try some new positions. And realize that all of these things
get you two talking to each other about something intimate and private; that
it’s only for your partner to hear. Keep that specialness alive: Marriage isn’t
a static condition – it evolves with you two. Good luck, be naughty, and have
fun!
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