Tips for Couples New to Anal Play

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Anal play can be an erotic and highly pleasurable experience. The anus is a large gathering of nerves that respond pleasurably when touched in a sexy setting. Many women have an 'Anal G-Spot,' a spot composed of the same nerves that give her the pleasure in her vagina; Men have the prostate that can be massaged for great pleasure. When explored slowly and surely, it will add a whole new dimension to your sex life that you both will greatly enjoy! Now, for the tips:




Before the fun!

1. Talk to each other about it! Make sure both you and your partner are comfortable with foraying into the fun world of anal play.

2. Get relaxed and set a calming mood -- have a little wine or maybe massage each other a little and dim the lights -- this is going to be a new experience for the two of you, so it should be pleasurable and not rushed.

3. Know your safety: Read below for our Anal Sex Safety Guide!

During the fun!

1. The receiver should get in a comfortable position. Many people find that being on their knees with the knees close together or on their side hugging their knees to their chest is the most relaxing: The anus is most relaxed when the knees are together since the pelvic muscles naturally pull on them.

2. The receiver should be relaxed and ready -- take a few deep breaths and enjoy the thrill of exploring new parts of your body with your loved one!

3. Put a little lube on the receiver's anus -- we would recommend a gel type lube for this purpose since it will stay in place longer.

4. Gently massage the anus -- don't press too hard and just do some gentle swirls with your finger. This will further relax the anus. The receiver can also masturbate slowly as this will help them relax.

5. This part's counter-intuitive, but true: The receiver should push gently as the giver slowly pushes a lubricated finger or small toy into the anus. If the anus feels too tight, use more lube and start over, relaxing the receiver.

6. Once the finger or small toy is inside the anus, let it stay there without movement -- the receiver should stay relaxed and let themselves relax.

7. Slowly move the finger or small toy in and out of the anus, talking with each other and communicating.

8. Find your comfort zones -- after you are comfortable with the initial play, move onto bigger fingers or two fingers; bigger toys -- whatever provides you the level of comfortable pleasure you like.


*** Safey First! ***

The anus can be a pleasurable orifice, but it can also be harmful if not dealt with safety measures. Although we are not medical professional that can legally advise you, here are some crucial rules we always abide by:

1. Know and communicate about you and your partner's sexual history and sexual health. The rectum and anus are very delicate and can easily transmit diseases such as herpes and HIV/AIDS. For more information visit: http://www.webmd.com/sex/anal-sex-health-concerns

2. Use a dental dam for any mouth to anus contact, and use a condom for any penis to anus or finger to anus contact

3. Exercise good hygiene: take a good shower before and after, using gentle soap to clean the area.

4. Anus to vagina contact is an absolute no-no! Change condoms if your passions should change, and make sure any lube from the anus does not drip down to the vagina -- this is a quick way to get UTIs. If it does drip down, don't panic and wipe away quickly.

5. Use plenty of lubricant always. The anus does not produce natural lubrication to the degree that the vagina does, and is is imperative that you use lubricant to minimize risk of tearing.