New Year’s Resolution: More Blow Jobs Please! Part I (Fellatio)

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Too many couples do not have enough oral sex. What's the point if you have regular sex? Well, it's a very different experience and it's a part of an affectionate intimate relationship. Think of it this way: it brings everything together in a proper manner that seals the deal. In this post, we'll talk about how to give your man an awesome blowjob! Trust me, it not only pleasures your man but truly empowers you. I give my husband a blowjob on a regular basis (about 5 to 8 times a week, depending) -- even for just a little bit; on some days when I'm friskier (or have something to be particularly grateful for), I even go down on him for over an hour. It's a great way for us to connect, or if we're too tired to make love, it's a good way to get some of the edge off together.


The art of fellatio is not hard to grasp. Much of it is intuitive but like many things, practice makes perfect. Becoming an absolute pro takes some time. For those of you who are new to oral sex, it's important to not feel intimidated or shy. Confidence and enthusiasm will take you very far. I'm not going to lie, it does require work, but it's something done out of affection and arousal. It's a healthy part of sex that pleasures both parties and opens up many new adventures. Be open minded, and open those mouths!


Here are some basic tips that will hopefully inspire some fun and new discoveries:
 

Tip 1: Enjoy It!
I think this is the most important feature of giving a blow job: you have to enjoy it yourself. Do not think of it as a chore. Only you get to your pleasure your man this way, and it's a pleasant privilege to make him feel so good. Show your enthusiasm for this will engage and arouse your man more than you think. Be confident and follow you intuition to let out your sensuality. Give him some naughty looks as you lick your way from the base of his penis to the top, enveloping his hard manhood with your mouth -- really get into it. Make eye contacts throughout the process to communicate your enjoyment and check on how your partner is doing. Give him a naughty smile every now and then to let him know that it's getting you going too.


Tip 2: Get Wet
Make sure your mouth is moist enough before you start. A dry mouth doesn't exactly help and can be uncomfortable for both of you. Most of the time your mouth will start to water during the process. If your man likes it dirty you can start off by letting a little spit drip onto his penis. Also, it’s important especially in the winter that your lips are not too dry since they could bleed for overdoing the ‘O’. Use some good lip balm throughout the day. Giving a blow job should also get you wet and aroused (I mean, we all know where that penis is going after, don't we ladies?). Let him know that you are turned on by rubbing against his leg for him to feel how warm and wet you are ;)  


Tip 3: Discover the Spots
The penis has many sensitive spots that enhance the experience. This may vary depending on the man and whether his penis is circumcised or not. Uncircumcised penises tend to be a bit more sensitive and require less force if you are used to circumcised ones. Do not leave the balls out. Gently massage them with your palms as you go and this can contribute greatly to his experience. If your man is comfortable with you touching the area behind the balls, message and stroke that stripe of skin very gently. It is directly linked to the prostate nerves and can yield some amazing sensations. Please keep in mind that many are very sensitive there and may feel uncomfortable. Communication is key.


Tip 4: Temperature Control
Play around with different mouth temperatures. Have some icy drinks and hold it in for a little bit, and then give your man a nice cool surprise. This is a really great touch if the day is blazing hot or if the heaters are getting to you. You can do the opposite with a few warm drinks for chilly winter day! Keep in mind if you are planning on having unprotected sex afterwards, you may want to avoid drinks containing lots of sugar. 


Tip 5: Element of Surprise
Have some bubbly fun by giving a blow job with some champagne or fizzy mineral water in your mouth. This is will bring new pleasurable sensations to 2013! Give each other oral favors in unexpected places to add an element of thrill. Sneak up on him from under the desk when he's working or when he is reading in bed. An unforeseen blow job will always create lots of sparks ;)


Tip 6: Grip & Consistency
Steadily build up your pace and grip and be consistent when you find an ideal combination. Swirl your man's penis inside your mouth with your tongue, swivel your entire head around as you lick the head of his penis, and do things that constantly stimulate his genitals and turn him on at the same time. This is extremely important when your man is close to coming. Sudden changes at the wrong time will set things back. Make your mouth into a vacuum and explore your suctions powers!
 

Tip 7: The Humming Bird
This is a classic fun trick. If you can deep throat, hum something while you are doing so. It doesn’t really matter what you hum since he will be so distracted by the incredible sensation of the vibrations in your mouth. If you are still working on deep throating, just bring the tip of his penis as far as you are comfortable with when humming, this will create similar effects but you may need to hum just a little louder.



The following tips are for the receiver:


1. Keep the Area Fresh: No one wants to go down there if it smells funny. Fragrances are not the way to go either for they can be quite potent for your partner and can often taste bitter. A proper wash in the shower is the best but if you are in a rush, a hygiene wipe is a good choice.


2. Groom the Bush: A good trim is sufficient enough for easier blow job giving. You don't want all that hair to tickle you partner and it also traps bad smells. Proper grooming down there will help to keep things fresh.


3. Guide Your Partner: Most men know their penis the best. Tell your partner what you like and don’t like. Be sure to tell each other what makes each of you uncomfortable. This will prevent any embarrassments and whatnots. It will also make the process much more pleasurable. Starting things gently can’t hurt anyone.


4. Stick to a Healthy Lifestyle: Your manhood-scent is partially affected by what you eat, drink, and do. In particular, the taste of semen heavily depends on such everyday routines. As a favor for your partner and especially yourself, lead a healthy lifestyle!


For the both of you: Communication and enthusiasm are the most important things. Don’t be afraid talk to each other about what you want and how you feel. Guide each other throughout the process. Keeping an open mind and be motivated to try new things.